The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer is my bible.
This book was first recommended to me by a close friend, and I will forever be grateful for her and for this suggestion. It immediately earned a spot on my yearly rotation. Singer lays out a spiritual path rooted in love, light, and a kind of inner freedom most of us spend our whole lives trying to grasp. When I finished it, it felt like taking a full breath after months of shallow ones, the kind of inhale that reminds you you’ve been surviving instead of living.
I felt awake. I felt softer. I felt ready to live again instead of just getting through the days.
I want to share the passages that hit me hardest.
“Deep inner release is a spiritual path in and of itself. It is the path of nonresistance, the path of acceptance, the path of surrender.”
When I first read this, I rolled my eyes. Surrendering into the unknown? Accepting the things that are out my control? You’re kidding..
My entire nervous system said absolutely fkn not. But after some introspective conversations, Singer has a beautiful point. This quote leans into living a life with no blame. Moving through experiences with the mantra of surrendering into what isn’t known. We must accept that what is meant for us will find us, whether we are ready for it or not.
“You will feel much more love than you have ever felt before.”
This line scared me because I did not believe it. But now I know the truth: the heart expands when it stops bracing.
A closed heart will always shut down our true potential.
“Life is not something to waste. It is truly precious. That is why death is such a great teacher.”
This quote hit differently. I remember rereading it weeks later and feeling both punched and held.
“It is scarcity that makes things precious.”
I used to hate this idea. Why should life require loss to wake us up? Why do we only start paying attention when something has slipped away?
But then Singer says:
“Death actually helps you get your life back by making you pay attention to the moment.”
That one cracked me open. Because it was painfully true. My grief made me notice everything. The way the sky looked in the morning. The warmth of someone’s voice. The fact that nothing is guaranteed and everything is temporary.
I used to fear that realization. Now my goal is to treat it as a compass.
“If you are living every experience fully, then death does not take a thing from you.”
That line is so empowering. A one liner that instantly squashes fear. How to live abroad. How to travel alone. How to open my heart again. Because the only thing death can steal is the life you refuse to live right now!!!
“The more you sit in the self, the more you will begin to feel an energy that you have never experienced before.”
Honestly, I thought this was spiritual bs the first time I read it. Energy from where??Behind me? Flowing upward? Shakti?
Then one night in my flat, after weeks of confusion and anxiety, I sat on my couch and realized my mind was finally silent. Not gone. Not fixed. Just not in control of me for once. And in that stillness, I felt it. That quiet, steady strength rising from somewhere deeper than my emotions.
“You do not have to get rid of loneliness. You just cease to be involved with it.”
When I moved back to England after Haiden passed I felt completely alone. This line reminds me of that time in life. The first time after Haiden had passed where I was alone in my grief and had to sit with it. It reminded me that feelings do not have to become identities. Loneliness and grief can pass through if I stop making it a story about who I am.
“Awareness does not fight. Awareness releases.”
Nights I feel overwhelmed, the mornings I wake up anxious for no reason, the moments grief has grabbed me out of nowhere, I have learned to sit. Breathe. Watch. Let it move.
And every time I did, it moved… eventually.
“The alternative is to decide not to fight with life.”
That sentence felt like a slap. Because so much of my life had been built on fighting. Fighting people. Fighting circumstances. Fighting feelings. Fighting fear. Fighting the idea that anything could change without my control.
But Singer breaks it down in the simplest and most brutal way:
“Life is continuously changing, and if you are trying to control it, you will never be able to fully live it.”
That was me for years.
At some point I realized my anxiety was not caused by the world. It was caused by my resistance to the world. My fear of feeling anything I could not predict or manage.
“Fear is caused by blockages in the flow of your energy. When your energy is blocked, it cannot feed your heart.”
This was the moment I understood why anxiety feels like a starving heart pulling at itself. Fear closes us. Release opens us.
The purpose of spiritual evolution, he says, is to remove those blockages. And suddenly my entire healing journey made sense. It was never about becoming fearless. It was about learning how to release fear whenever it was triggered.
“The types of events that would have destroyed you in the past can come and go, leaving you perfectly centered and peaceful.”
This line is so personal for me.
The things that used to break me down:
The panic attacks.
The uncertainty.
The uprooting.
The grief.
The heartbreak.
The unknowns.
They come now, and I stay steady. Not because I am unshakable. But because I know how to let go.
“No matter what events take place in life, it is always better to let go rather than to close.”
Every time I have closed myself,
I have suffered.
Every time I have released,
I have grown,
And that is the entire point of this book.
“You will break the ultimate habit. You will be free to explore the nature and source of your true being. Pure Consciousness.”
I am not fully there yet. But I am closer than I used to be. And that is healing.
If you have made it this far, read this book. Not quickly. Not passively.
Slowly. With patience. With curiosity. Let it get under your skin. Let it shift things quietly. Let it break open the parts of you that have been holding on for too long.
This is not a book you finish. It is a book that finishes parts of you! Parts that are ready to be released!
Give it time. Give yourself time. This one is sooo worth it.
Simply yours, Ky
By Kyra Oakland 
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